With Mother’s Day approaching, separated parents can often find these special occasions a little more challenging to navigate. A bit of forward planning can make all the difference in keeping the day calm, positive and stress free for everyone involved.

Whether arrangements are agreed informally, through solicitors, mediation, or set out in a Child Arrangements Order, days like Mother’s and Father’s Day can raise questions. It can be tricky when these special days land on a weekend and the children aren’t normally with the parent. Agreeing plans early helps everyone know where they stand and allows children to focus on what really matters such as planning that lovely breakfast in bed.

A common and often successful approach is for children to spend special days with the parent whose day it is, regardless of whose usual weekend it falls on. This might be for the whole day, or part of the day (after all, that lie-in is important!). Where this isn’t possible, setting aside time for a FaceTime call can be a thoughtful alternative. Small gestures, such as helping children make cards or gifts, can also reassure them that both parents continue to recognise and respect each other’s role in their lives. Keeping the focus on the children helps them feel secure and free from any sense of divided loyalty.

For families going through a same sex separation, Mother’s Day and Father’s Day can sometimes feel less straightforward. Some families choose to split the day, alternate celebrations each year or arrange a different day altogether. What matters most is finding an arrangement that works for your family.

If you find yourself without your children on these occasions, it can help to step away from social media and plan something kind for yourself, a pamper day, a film afternoon or time with friends. Creating new traditions and arranging a FaceTime call with your children can also help the day feel more positive.

Every family is different, and what works well for one may not suit another. Taking time to plan ahead together, whatever your circumstances, is often the best way to ensure these special days are handled with care. Setting new traditions can bring a positive focus to what might otherwise feel difficult.

Taking early legal advice can also help you understand your position and support you in reaching a practical child centered solution more quickly.

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